The Confidence Gap By Russ Harris - Quick Notes
ACT
Defusion techniques
- Visualise, voice modulate, sing the thought
- Identify workability
- Identify fusion
Engagement techniques
- Leaves on a stream
- Sound-body-sights scan
- Breath Meditation
- Floating technique
Expansion
NAME - Notice, Acknowledge, Make Space (breathe), Engage (expand)
FEAR
F – Fusion E – Excessive goals A – Avoidance of discomfort R – Remoteness from values
DARE
D – Defusion A – Acceptance of discomfort R – Realistic goals E – Embracing values
10 Rules
“The actions of confidence come first; the feelings of confidence come later.”
“Genuine confidence is not the absence of fear; it is a transformed relationship with fear.”
“Negative thoughts are normal. Don’t fight them; defuse them.”
“Self-acceptance trumps self-esteem.”
“True success is living by your values.”
“Hold your values lightly, but pursue them vigorously.”
“Don’t obsess about the outcomes; get passionate about the process.”
“Don’t fight your fear: allow it, befriend it, and channel it.”
“Failure hurts—but if we’re willing to learn, it’s a wonderful teacher.”
“The key to peak performance is total engagement in the task.”